Dear California Voters who Supported Prop 8 -
I realize that to you gay marriage must rank up there with bad things like storms of locusts and boils and bloody plagues and a second season of The Bionic Woman. I get it. Somehow the idea that two gay people who love one another and whom would like the right to be able to become legally committed to one another is abhorrent to you. I'm also guessing that most of you who voted for Prop 8 don't actually know any gay couples. How do I know this? Because it's always easier to dehumanize someone and take away their civil rights if they don't really exist to you.
So, with their permission, let me introduce you to one of the married gay couples whose civil rights you're working so tirelessly to strip away:
This is my baby brother Craig (on the right) and his husband Jack (left). They've been together as a monogamous couple for more than fifteen years. Longer, in fact, that most heterosexual couples that I know.
So what can I tell you about these two big scary homos, hmmm? Well, when he was a kid, Craig had a love affair with the Titanic and all big ocean liners. He collected Titanic books and memorabilia and had Cunard and White Star Line posters all over his room. Now, as an adult, he actually gets to sail on all those big ships he loved as a kid; he and Jack go on several cruises every year. (I kinda don't get the whole cruise ship thing so I tend to tease them mercilessly about it, but hey, they don't understand my love of San Diego Comic-Con, so I guess we're about even.)
And Jack? Jack loves car races. He's an unapologetic Nascar fan (yes, gay Nascar fans exist - shocking!), and has an enormous collection of Matchbox cars that he's had since he was a kid. Craig and Jack both love Christmas; they go nuts every year decorating their house for the holidays and they create spectacular and realistic tableaus for their huge collection of Department 56 Dickens houses. (They also both have questionable taste in sweaters on occasion, but I suspect that's from being exposed too early to The Cosby Show. Shhh! Don't tell them I said anything.)
Jack and Craig were introduced by Craig's friend Eileen, who has been one of his best friends since eighth grade. (Totally heterosexual, in case you were wondering.) They were married fifteen years later in Eileen's backyard, surrounded by friends and family (and margaritas). It was a wonderful day.
And you've been trying your damnedest to invalidate all of that. Why?
No, I don't really think that this post will change your minds. Bigotry is a pretty ingrained mindset. But I thought I'd at least remind you that the people whose lives you're fucking with? The men and women you're choosing to relegate to the status of second-class citizen? Well, they're actual human beings.
Fed up with the hate,
PS: If there are any other gay couples out there - married or otherwise - who'd like to come forward and introduce themselves, feel free to drop me an email with a photo and your story. I'd be happy to post it here.