Sunday, October 18, 2009

When compassion dies, we're all lessened as human beings: why we need gay marriage now more than ever.

Enough.

Enough.

Enough of your hate-based religious objections. Enough of your soap-boxes. Enough of your homophobic excuses. Enough of your deconstructionist nitpicking at country, state and federal laws. Enough of your obsession with making an entire class of people legally-lesser-beings.

Enough.

You want a HUMAN reason that we need a federal law recognizing same-sex marriage now? You want a reason that any compassionate God would agree with? READ THIS NOW. If you aren't completely furious by the end of this essay, you simply aren't human. And frankly, I don't want to know you.

And if you'd like to protest the way that Jackson Memorial Hospital treated these women and their family, here's the phone number for the hospital: (305) 585-1111.

23 comments:

Diana said...

I feel ill having read that story. How very, very sad.

nicola said...

Thanks, Colleen. I just want to remind readers that empathy is all well and good, it's what makes us human, but we also have to *act*: make the phone call, make a donation, make time to talk to someone about the issue. Make it happen.

Book Maven said...

I don't live in the US let alone Washington but I will post this on Facebook and Twitter.

We had a big success here after a vile journalist wrote a homophobic piece about a gay and married pop singer (Stephen Gately of Boyzone) who died of natural causes in his sleep, on the eve of his funeral.

I share your outrage and disgust. When will the world come to its senses?

Debra said...

Collen thank you for this post.

Unacceptable behavior from people who are suppose to care. Going to a hospital is one place you expect compassion.

Have posted in twitter, FB, and on my Buddhist blog....and will email..and call.

Debra Saturday

Christina Lee said...

Thank you for this. This is an issue extremely close to my heart--having a gay sibling who is also my BF! When I read stuff like this I want to cry, rage, and shout it from the mountaintops, as you essentially did here. many thanks!

Scott said...

Well said . . . and THANKS!!

S

okay - word verify is: tormento!

Lauren said...

Thank you for sharing that. I am horrified that the hospital did not allow them to be together. Whether or not you agree with something as a medical worker your job is to do no harm. That poor family :(

Alena Thomas said...

Colleen, Thanks for posting this. With all the advances the human race has made over the past twenty years alone, I am constantly amazed and horrified with our unwillingness to love one another. I have two gay nephews and when I see the blantant disregard for not only their personal freedoms, but also their legal ones, I am filled with outrage. I never use the word "tolerant" because it implies there is something that needs to be tolerated...there isn't. All we have to do is love one another. The most basic emotion we have and yet there are so many "humans" who just want to hate. I will make this call and encourage everyone I know to do the same. Thanks again for making us aware of this injustice.

Dana said...

Thanks Colleen... I'm so glad you brought this to my attention. I'll definitely be taking every action that I can.

Megan said...

I am utterly aghast at the trauma this poor family had to suffer. I have posted the story on FB.

Rebecca Knight said...

This is an absolute nightmare. I was already going to vote to approve 71, but I'll absolutely make sure more folks know this story. Thank you!

Rebecca Knight said...

Tweeting to Washingtonians @twoheadknight.

Lauren M. Hunter said...

Thank you very much for the link. I'm a Washingtonian and I'm hearing so many claims that gay and lesbian couples don't need visitation rights because "they can just get Power of Attorney." I hope this story will help me reach more people.

Fawn Neun said...

Just wanted to copy this year's annual Matthew Shepard rant from my journal:

I get emotional about it, too. The death of Matthew Shepard was a snapping point for me, the point that I decided that I simply could not and would not tolerate ignorant, prejudiced and primal behavior any longer. There is no excuse for it, and honestly I don't care how many feeble-minded homophobes have to die off or god-forbid, feel morally VIOLATED, to make true equality a reality.

I am STILL stunned, outraged, enraged and mortified to my core.

I don't care what their "God" says, I don't care what tradition says-tradition says we beat our wives and sell our children - f*@k tradition. I don't care if their skin crawls, I don't care what they think or what they feel or what perverted logic they base their mindless prejudice. No human being should suffer, be taunted or tortured, be deprived, be treated as inferior or be hurt or killed because THEY don't like the way god or nature created someone. God or nature does NOT give a f*@k what they think. Their opinion is immaterial to the vast design and randomity of creation.


I'm just a straight chick, what do I know, except I know what's right. Love is love, people are people, nature creates us as we are meant to be and anyone who thinks they know better than millions of years of evolution or the divine mind of the infinite probably needs to check their ego at the door of reality.

I don't care what these people think anymore. They're irrelevent and we will out number and outlast them.

Keep the faith and don't stop fighting.

writtenwyrdd said...

We're voting on Nov 1 in Maine re marriage rights, and I sure hope people open their hearts and minds like their Bible wants them to.

Mandy said...

Thanks for posting this! It is so apalling to see such disregard for compassion. There's not enough love in the world. When you finally find it, NO ONE should deny your right to legally and spiritually bind yourself to the one you love!

Lisa Iriarte said...

I used to live in Miami. I've been treated at Jackson Memorial Hospital. I was not treated well, and I'm not gay. Their general lack of compassion for what seemed like most of their patients was appalling. They might be medically proficient, but they have a lot to learn about being humane.

What happened to Lisa goes far beyond appalling and inhumane, and the comment made by the social worker that they were in "an anti-gay state" made me ashamed to be a Floridian.

annerallen said...

If we were "good Christians" like those "right to lifers", then Garnett Frederick and those two doctors would be in fear for their lives about now. (Yeah, gays may be second class citizens, but these good folks have made sure anybody can buy them some guns.)

But instead, we're praying for these creeps to stop punishing people for being the way God made them. Which I guess proves how "Un-Christian" we are. Right?

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jessjordan said...

The way this family was treated is deplorable. How can so much hate exist for a group of people who want nothing more than to love and to be loved, and for their relationships to be accepted as real? I've gone over and over the issue of gay marriage, and a reason to deny such a fundamental right to individuals does not exist. It simply does not exist.

For those who argue public policy and faith-based objections, take a deep look within yourselves and ask, "What is the consequence of my judging others?"

Shame on you, Miami. Shame. On. You.

anghara said...

Blogged it on my LJ. It's just... beyond words. How does someone sleep at night after adding this kind of suffering to what must already have been unimaginable grief? How does one live with a conscience which is only filled with hate and fear?

steeleweed said...

"No man is an island, entire of itself...any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee." John Donne.

I often wonder why those who are so anti-gay feel it's any of their affair how others live. Why don't they simply mind their own business? Who the #$%^& gave them the right to say how others should live?

Susan said...

This is one of the most disgusting things I've ever read in my life.

And what makes me even more furious is that we have to "vote on it." There should be no vote. It should just simply "be."

There is no place for government in our bedrooms. Blech.